Modesty and flirtation are somethings that have been weighing on my heart for the past few months. Mainly concerning women and the way we come across to other people, especially the men in our lives.
Some people wonder why I shrug off guys hitting on me. My friends gasp in wonder as I act like I don't care that a good looking guy just complimented me and then later question why I don't have a boyfriend.
The fact of the matter is I am a tall, thin athletic-looking woman. I know I don't have to work very hard to catch guys' eyes. But over the past several months, thanks to Phylicia's post, I've come to realize I haven't always done good job of dressing in a way that reflects how I want to be treated. Lately, I've been trying to pay attention to how low my shirts are, how tight my pants are (long legs do not make matters any easier), and if my oufits draw attention to those long appendages I've been so graciously been blessed with.
Linked here is another post from Phylicia titled, "Why I Don't Take Hot as a Compliment". It describes what 'hot' means and the message behind it. I've been reading Phylicia's blog for almost a year now and I really respect her opinions. Check it out. Maybe it will make you reevaluate how you're dressing. I know it was for me.
If you like what you see there, take a look around her blog. She has a lot of well-thought out and well-written content. I would highly recommend the "Type-A Diaries" linked at the very bottom of her page. It's convicting to the core.
I would love to hear what your thoughts are on modesty and flirting! Leave a comment below.
P.S. After writing this post, I encountered this which is so, very encouraging after a summer with little girls who ran into this same problem. The few days we spent at the pool taught me two things:
1) Little girls don't know how to dress themselves and are counting on us to teach them how and why we strive to dress modestly.
2) If we don't help them dress in an age appropriate manner, they will dress the way they see the girls on TV dress. (That is, if you allow your children to watch much TV, which is a whole other post itself.)
As a soon-to-be teacher, it's encouraging to see mothers taking notice of this, coming together, and fighting it! We need more moms who are willing to do the hard stuff (not that being a mom is an easy feat!) and stick up for what's right and protecting our children's minds from harmful things.
P.S. After writing this post, I encountered this which is so, very encouraging after a summer with little girls who ran into this same problem. The few days we spent at the pool taught me two things:
1) Little girls don't know how to dress themselves and are counting on us to teach them how and why we strive to dress modestly.
2) If we don't help them dress in an age appropriate manner, they will dress the way they see the girls on TV dress. (That is, if you allow your children to watch much TV, which is a whole other post itself.)
As a soon-to-be teacher, it's encouraging to see mothers taking notice of this, coming together, and fighting it! We need more moms who are willing to do the hard stuff (not that being a mom is an easy feat!) and stick up for what's right and protecting our children's minds from harmful things.
